This is part of The Daily Meditation Experiment, where I am practicing one school of meditation per week to understand the overall structure & effects of each.

Meditation Method: Mindfulness (Vipassana)

I sit on a cushion, eyes closed, for 20 minutes, listening to theta wave binaural beats.

I breathe deeply & naturally, focusing on my breath and on allowing my thoughts to pass through me without capturing me.

When thoughts do capture me, and I notice them, I label the thought broadly (e.g. plan, worry, memory), and return to my breath.

If I am able to achieve total empty mind, never for more than the space of a few breaths, I feel my mind open and relax, while I notice my breaths & the total emptiness of thought between them.

Adherence: 71%

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Daily Meditation Experiment

The Experiment:

Every week, I will practice one type of meditation (listed in my Meditation Crash Course, which is currently in development) every day for 20 minutes.

I will track my progress using Momentum, and report back here weekly on how I practiced the previous week’s meditation & what my thoughts/feelings are on it.

Why

It seems like nearly every single person I admire meditates. Tim Ferriss, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Rick Rubin, Steve Jobs, Jerry Seinfeld, Elon Musk, Colin Wright, Tynan, Eben Pagan, Sebastian Marshall, Josh Waitzkin…the list goes on. And they all espouse the benefits that meditation has brought to their life.

When enough people you admire all say the same thing, it’s wise to listen. So I’m trying meditation out for myself.

The Hypothesis

I’ve already been loosely doing meditation for a month now. (more…)

Mum's Basement Hustle

  1. Asha is more mature than I.
  2. The truth sets you free. When you know sometihng is wrong, and you truthfully figure out what it is, it will be better.
  3. While one should strive to understand everything, one should not structure and SOP everything. Some things, like passionate love making, are killed by structure.
  4. While staying in touch with reality, always assume the best and act accordingly. Remember that, no matter what you assume, as long as it’s based on objective evidence, you’re equally likely to be wrong as any other assumption. However, if you assume the best, you are most likely of all scenarios to actually achieve the best.
  5. While remembering the first, always know & plan for the worst.
  6. Sexually, don’t always grab. Flirting & chasing & teasing is fun!
  7. Always striving to impress each other, dress up for each other, surprise each other. This is a cornerstone to an amazing relationship.
  8. When someone earns your trust, and asks for it, give it to them.
  9. When stressfull things are happening, strive to stay even and calm. Deal with what is.
  10. If you are frusturated, do not take it out on others
  11. Focused meditation, where you do not explore your body & emotions nor calmly think through problems, is extremely difficult. Your mind will wander to the most unrelated places in literally the space of two breaths.
  12. Never accept free drinks from the bartender/owner unless you are prepared to pay for them. You probably will.
  13. Being a creative, fast moving, calm, optimal version of myself is just as hard/easy as being a lazy, tired, stressed, basic version of myself. The difference is that being optimal is hard in terms of having the willpower and energy and sangfroid to power through the hard parts with calm enjoyment. It is easy in terms of enjoying my life and loving what I do and who I am. Being basic is easy in terms of not having to try hard to do anything. It is hard in terms of disliking my life and who I am and being very restricted by my failure to create.
  14. People can forget the importance of not editing my copy. I have to immediately remind them when this happens. Nip it in the bud.
  15. When Asha and I are highly emotional in a fight, we need time to cool down.
  16. I LOVE google analytics. It’s so fucking powerful.
  17. Resepct other’s privacy, even if you don’t have much of your own.
  18. The Don’t Break The Chain method is extremely powerful in the face of rationalization.
  19. Willpower goes down as sleep debt goes up.
  20. I can do great work even when sleep deprived. In fact, I have a theory it helps with certain types of work. I should do a Sleep Deprivation Productivity Experiment.
  21. Elon Musk is probably the most impressive human I’ve ever heard of.

Daily Meditation Experiment - Momentum - Pre-Experiment

This is part of The Daily Meditation Experiment, where I am practicing one school of meditation per week to understand the overall structure & effects of each.

Meditation Method: Free Style

I sit or lie down, eyes closed, for 5-20 minutes.

I listen completely to a song OR feel my body’s emotions and focus on accepting & solving them OR I do a century count of 100 deep breaths OR try not to focus on anything at all OR something else.

Adherence: On & Off

I practiced free style meditation from April 28th to May 24th. My longest streak was 9 days, and I meditated for a total of 22/27 days.

Results & Thoughts

I’ve seen some impressive results. I’ve gotten perspective on a lot of seemingly huge emotional problems, had entire days where I was calm simply because I had meditated, and discovered how hard it is to quiet the mind and not be taken over my thoughts or emotions.

  • Increased & lasting calm.
  • Reminded that everything will be okay.
  • Big problems made not so big. Solutions created.
  • Almost always feel better after meditating than I did before.
  • Learned that quieting the mind is difficult.

Fukkin Selfy Saturday

 

  • Don’t eat mindlessly. Especially when the meal is in any way special.
  • When you’re talking with someone, focus 100% on the conversation. If you fall off-side to research something, tell them and include them.
  • When I feel the desire to work, work! Don’t do anything else and wait for that desire to go away. Work.
  • Mom and Asha just had a major misunderstanding of eachother. Mom saw Asha’s introvertedness as rudeness, Asha saw mom’s affront as dislike.
  • Asha had gotten emotionally abusive after I hurt her. I hadn’t realized this and neither had she. When Joy pointed it out, we acknowledged it and she stopped. It feels so much better.
  • Follow the inspiration. Even if it leads off-project. Follow it.
  • Asha’s weed tolerance is such that truly potent bud is too strong for her. She enjoys, much more, a mellower weed.
  • Asha has her feet more firmly on the ground than I do. She should be in charge of final financial decisions.
  • Asha is an AMAZING copywriter. Fast, wonderfully worded, skillful. Wow.
  • Don’t get greedy when pricing. Too high = no sales.
  • Asha needs more sleep than I do. Probably because she works out. Which means that there will be times I go to sleep after her.
  • Cutting on a diet can be HARD. I’m craving food every damn night.
  • How to make begedel (tater tots)

The Hypothesis/Reason: 

A few months back, I realized that I was doing a horrendous job at interacting with women. So I broke it down to take a look at the cause.

Turns out, if you looked at it like a sales funnel (which it is), mine was utterly unplanned. So I took a MVP approach to it, and found out what would bring me the desired results with as little time and effort spent.

I predicted that the results would look like the funnel on the left (as opposed to my default funnel on the right).

The Love by MVP Experiment - Hypothesis

The Plan:

It’s outlined here: The Love by MVP approach.

Results:

About 5 weeks later, I’d fallen in love with a girl who is still the best match for me I’ve yet met.  (more…)

A good book can be a formidable thing.

It must be handled with respect and wariness. With full knowledge that, while it has great power to inspire and teach, it is also as addictive as any video game.

Left to the care of willpower alone, the book will win. It will always win. It’s siren’s call of just one more paragraph, chapter, hour, will expand to fill as many hours as it possibly can.

What is the purpose for which I read the Wheel of Time?

I read it because I deeply enjoy it. Because it captivates me, inspires me, and stirs up in my a distinctive lean towards the epic. (more…)

So, I was hypnotized. Past life regression hypnotized to be specific.

In keeping with my subscription of the religion of “I don’t know”, I’ve got no idea what happened here. Could be placebo. Could be imagination. Could be that I got in touch my soul, and it’s memory of past lives.

I don’t know.

What I do know is that the advice I got from my ideal self is excellent.

So, well, here it is:

Note: to see my past lives, check out the Word of Focus post here.

Why did Eddy see these particular past lives? The life as the tribe member, the life of the dog, and the life of the merchant. (more…)

  1. I learned that the best way to get into a hugely productive mindset is to make it so that you no choice. You’re either in hustle, or everything fails.
  2. I have put myself in a position where i must either be excellent or fail. There is very little safety room here. I must be excellent.
  3. On the plus side, I enjoy nothing more in life than being excellent.
  4. I learned that, sometimes, the only thing that matters is who you’re spending your time with, even when you’re not doing anything.
  5. Tight deadlines with real stakes are a huge help to this. Tim Ferriss already told me this.
  6. I do need to scale back on my workload just a bit. I’m at
  7. I have trained myself to escape from thought and focus. To be able to, in dance and social interaction and whatever, switch my mind from hustling & creating to flowing and exploring. I love this.
  8. I must consciously guard my focus agaisnt programmed self-distraction. To actively pause myself when I am doing something off, write it down if it must be done later, and focus on the thing I have devoted my time to.
  9. Momentum is huge. If you can get that thing running, you get a flywheel. If you let it stagnate, you get a big flat bottomed block of heavy stone. Get intertia in your favour, and you’re golden.
  10. Eating filler is a waste of time. Stuff like packet ramen noodles don’t cure hunger for long or provide energy.
  11. Creative writing and planning tends to take far longer than planned.
  12. Talking with friends is HUGELY rejuvinating.
  13. Sleep has a huge and noticeable impact on all my functions. Creativity, playfulness, memory, focus.
  14. I can go a day without sleeping and still kcik ass, though. But I’m lower energy. I can’t go 3 days.
  15. I learned that being real and honest works. It almost always results in my having what I desire, and it has never yet harmed me.
  16. I learned that passion consumes all barriers. No thing will stop a person who is insanely passionate in their pursuit of a goal.
  17. There truly is a beauty to the stillness of the world at night. I doubted it, but it is true that the absence of humans around you allows you to zone in.
  18. Focus is not a universal problem. I have it, but a ton of people don’t.
  19. I fucking LOVE dancing when I am able to change my mindset into my instinctual and primal and playful self.

A growing database of the best quotes I encounter here: https://www.evernote.com/pub/eddyazar/commonplacebook

A few favorites:

“If it seems too good to be true, drop everything and check it out.” – Tynan

“Hard is easy” – Colin Wright

“Focus. Focus on Focus.” – Paul Graham

“I felt like the world was made up of a mad tangle of options, and all I had to do was pick which strand I wanted to follow and then weave my way along the path I chose until I saw one I liked better” – Colin Wright

“A master in the art of living draws no sharp distinction between his work and his play; his labor and his leisure; his mind and his body; his education and his recreation. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence through whatever he is doing, and leaves others to determine whether he is working or playing. To himself, he always appears to be doing both.” – Francois-Rene de Chateaubriand

“Everything is designed. Few things are designed well.” – Brian Reed

“Avoid using the word ‘very’, because it’s lazy. A man is not very tired, he is exhausted. Don’t use very sad, use morose. Language was invented for one reason, boys: to woo women. And, in that endeavor, laziness will not do.” – Robin Willaims

“I cannot know where I most wish to go because I have not seen all that there is.” – Jarlaxle Baenre

“Formidable is close to confident, except that someone could be confident and mistaken. Formidable is roughly justifiably confident.” – Paul Graham

“For him, it seemed, being in motion came as naturally as being still” – Ayn Rand

“What is the opposite of happiness? Sadness. No. Just as love and hate are two sides of the same coin, so are happiness and sadness. Crying out of happiness is a perfect illustration of this. The opposite of love is indifference, and the opposite of happiness is – here’s the clincher -boredom.

Excitement is the more practical synonym for happiness, and it is precisely what you should strive to chase. It is the cure-all….

The question you should be asking isn’t, ‘What do I want?’ or ‘What are my goals?’ but ‘What would excite me?'” – Tim Ferriss

“You have to decide that being unreliable, even to yourself — especially to yourself — is completely unacceptable. It’s weakness, and examined weakness should not be allowed to survive.” – Tynan

“Because your own strength is unequal to the task, do not assume that it is beyond the powers of man; but if anything is within the powers and province of man, believe that it is within your own compass also.” – Marcus Aurelius

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect” – Mark Twain

“An inconvenience is an adventure wrongly considered.” – Gilbert Chesterton