July 20 - 26

  1. Sweating to clean oneself is quite effective. For the first 2 hours or so, the sweat will wash away the dirt on you and in your pores. If you leave during this time, you’ll be sticky and smell sweaty. After that, it’s much like taking a saltwater bath.
  2. Once you start, creating is a lot of fun.
  3. Planning can be a serious form of procrastination. It feels productive and energizing, but if you don’t follow through then it was just masturbation.
  4. You can distance yourself from pain using The Flame & The Void meditation. I proved this by holding my hand in ice water for three minutes and having parts of it where I was able to distance myself from the pain
  5. You can forget to do regular things if you miss your trigger point. For example, not starting your nightly ritual when the alarm rings = nearly forgetting to review your day.
  6. I like gym workouts, when they’re short.
  7. Once you’ve begun a day badly, it’s quite hard to get it on the right track.

This is part of The Daily Meditation Experiment, where I am practicing one school of meditation per week to understand the overall structure & effects of each.

Also, this post is not nearly a week after it’s predicessor. Sorry about that. I fell off the meditation routine and it took me about 1.5 months to get back into it.

Meditation Method: Loving Kindness (Metta)

I sit on a cushion, eyes closed, for 20 minutes, listening to theta wave binaural beats.

I breathe deeply & naturally, focusing on my breath and on allowing my thoughts to pass through me without capturing me, just as I did in Vipassana.

Once my thoughts are clear, I begin to envision in detail what I would like my life to be like. I mentally repeat the words “I hope that I have X”. I then do this with someone I love. Then someone I don’t really care about. Then someone I don’t like.

 

Adherence: Minimal

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This is part of The Daily Meditation Experiment, where I am practicing one school of meditation per week to understand the overall structure & effects of each.

Meditation Method: Mindfulness (Vipassana)

I sit on a cushion, eyes closed, for 20 minutes, listening to theta wave binaural beats.

I breathe deeply & naturally, focusing on my breath and on allowing my thoughts to pass through me without capturing me.

When thoughts do capture me, and I notice them, I label the thought broadly (e.g. plan, worry, memory), and return to my breath.

If I am able to achieve total empty mind, never for more than the space of a few breaths, I feel my mind open and relax, while I notice my breaths & the total emptiness of thought between them.

Adherence: 71%

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Daily Meditation Experiment

The Experiment:

Every week, I will practice one type of meditation (listed in my Meditation Crash Course, which is currently in development) every day for 20 minutes.

I will track my progress using Momentum, and report back here weekly on how I practiced the previous week’s meditation & what my thoughts/feelings are on it.

Why

It seems like nearly every single person I admire meditates. Tim Ferriss, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Rick Rubin, Steve Jobs, Jerry Seinfeld, Elon Musk, Colin Wright, Tynan, Eben Pagan, Sebastian Marshall, Josh Waitzkin…the list goes on. And they all espouse the benefits that meditation has brought to their life.

When enough people you admire all say the same thing, it’s wise to listen. So I’m trying meditation out for myself.

The Hypothesis

I’ve already been loosely doing meditation for a month now. (more…)

Mum's Basement Hustle

  1. Asha is more mature than I.
  2. The truth sets you free. When you know sometihng is wrong, and you truthfully figure out what it is, it will be better.
  3. While one should strive to understand everything, one should not structure and SOP everything. Some things, like passionate love making, are killed by structure.
  4. While staying in touch with reality, always assume the best and act accordingly. Remember that, no matter what you assume, as long as it’s based on objective evidence, you’re equally likely to be wrong as any other assumption. However, if you assume the best, you are most likely of all scenarios to actually achieve the best.
  5. While remembering the first, always know & plan for the worst.
  6. Sexually, don’t always grab. Flirting & chasing & teasing is fun!
  7. Always striving to impress each other, dress up for each other, surprise each other. This is a cornerstone to an amazing relationship.
  8. When someone earns your trust, and asks for it, give it to them.
  9. When stressfull things are happening, strive to stay even and calm. Deal with what is.
  10. If you are frusturated, do not take it out on others
  11. Focused meditation, where you do not explore your body & emotions nor calmly think through problems, is extremely difficult. Your mind will wander to the most unrelated places in literally the space of two breaths.
  12. Never accept free drinks from the bartender/owner unless you are prepared to pay for them. You probably will.
  13. Being a creative, fast moving, calm, optimal version of myself is just as hard/easy as being a lazy, tired, stressed, basic version of myself. The difference is that being optimal is hard in terms of having the willpower and energy and sangfroid to power through the hard parts with calm enjoyment. It is easy in terms of enjoying my life and loving what I do and who I am. Being basic is easy in terms of not having to try hard to do anything. It is hard in terms of disliking my life and who I am and being very restricted by my failure to create.
  14. People can forget the importance of not editing my copy. I have to immediately remind them when this happens. Nip it in the bud.
  15. When Asha and I are highly emotional in a fight, we need time to cool down.
  16. I LOVE google analytics. It’s so fucking powerful.
  17. Resepct other’s privacy, even if you don’t have much of your own.
  18. The Don’t Break The Chain method is extremely powerful in the face of rationalization.
  19. Willpower goes down as sleep debt goes up.
  20. I can do great work even when sleep deprived. In fact, I have a theory it helps with certain types of work. I should do a Sleep Deprivation Productivity Experiment.
  21. Elon Musk is probably the most impressive human I’ve ever heard of.

Daily Meditation Experiment - Momentum - Pre-Experiment

This is part of The Daily Meditation Experiment, where I am practicing one school of meditation per week to understand the overall structure & effects of each.

Meditation Method: Free Style

I sit or lie down, eyes closed, for 5-20 minutes.

I listen completely to a song OR feel my body’s emotions and focus on accepting & solving them OR I do a century count of 100 deep breaths OR try not to focus on anything at all OR something else.

Adherence: On & Off

I practiced free style meditation from April 28th to May 24th. My longest streak was 9 days, and I meditated for a total of 22/27 days.

Results & Thoughts

I’ve seen some impressive results. I’ve gotten perspective on a lot of seemingly huge emotional problems, had entire days where I was calm simply because I had meditated, and discovered how hard it is to quiet the mind and not be taken over my thoughts or emotions.

  • Increased & lasting calm.
  • Reminded that everything will be okay.
  • Big problems made not so big. Solutions created.
  • Almost always feel better after meditating than I did before.
  • Learned that quieting the mind is difficult.

Fukkin Selfy Saturday

 

  • Don’t eat mindlessly. Especially when the meal is in any way special.
  • When you’re talking with someone, focus 100% on the conversation. If you fall off-side to research something, tell them and include them.
  • When I feel the desire to work, work! Don’t do anything else and wait for that desire to go away. Work.
  • Mom and Asha just had a major misunderstanding of eachother. Mom saw Asha’s introvertedness as rudeness, Asha saw mom’s affront as dislike.
  • Asha had gotten emotionally abusive after I hurt her. I hadn’t realized this and neither had she. When Joy pointed it out, we acknowledged it and she stopped. It feels so much better.
  • Follow the inspiration. Even if it leads off-project. Follow it.
  • Asha’s weed tolerance is such that truly potent bud is too strong for her. She enjoys, much more, a mellower weed.
  • Asha has her feet more firmly on the ground than I do. She should be in charge of final financial decisions.
  • Asha is an AMAZING copywriter. Fast, wonderfully worded, skillful. Wow.
  • Don’t get greedy when pricing. Too high = no sales.
  • Asha needs more sleep than I do. Probably because she works out. Which means that there will be times I go to sleep after her.
  • Cutting on a diet can be HARD. I’m craving food every damn night.
  • How to make begedel (tater tots)

The Hypothesis/Reason: 

A few months back, I realized that I was doing a horrendous job at interacting with women. So I broke it down to take a look at the cause.

Turns out, if you looked at it like a sales funnel (which it is), mine was utterly unplanned. So I took a MVP approach to it, and found out what would bring me the desired results with as little time and effort spent.

I predicted that the results would look like the funnel on the left (as opposed to my default funnel on the right).

The Love by MVP Experiment - Hypothesis

The Plan:

It’s outlined here: The Love by MVP approach.

Results:

About 5 weeks later, I’d fallen in love with a girl who is still the best match for me I’ve yet met.  (more…)

A good book can be a formidable thing.

It must be handled with respect and wariness. With full knowledge that, while it has great power to inspire and teach, it is also as addictive as any video game.

Left to the care of willpower alone, the book will win. It will always win. It’s siren’s call of just one more paragraph, chapter, hour, will expand to fill as many hours as it possibly can.

What is the purpose for which I read the Wheel of Time?

I read it because I deeply enjoy it. Because it captivates me, inspires me, and stirs up in my a distinctive lean towards the epic. (more…)

So, I was hypnotized. Past life regression hypnotized to be specific.

In keeping with my subscription of the religion of “I don’t know”, I’ve got no idea what happened here. Could be placebo. Could be imagination. Could be that I got in touch my soul, and it’s memory of past lives.

I don’t know.

What I do know is that the advice I got from my ideal self is excellent.

So, well, here it is:

Note: to see my past lives, check out the Word of Focus post here.

Why did Eddy see these particular past lives? The life as the tribe member, the life of the dog, and the life of the merchant. (more…)