Taking care of people and making them feel good are not the same thing.

Taking care of people means doing all you can to help them improve. Even if it doesn’t feel good.

If you know they can improve, help them. If they can’t, stop caring.

Don’t worry about their thoughts about you. First off, your philosophy is the only one that matters. Secondly, you’re probably gauging their thoughts wrong anyway.

Pikolo Espresso Bar

Walking into the little French Pikolo Café, I searched the length of the floor & balcony, and could not find a seat.

Descending the stairway to get a second look, I saw three seats all together and alone. Around them, not a seat was without use, but these three sat at the end of the coffee bar, like three lone metallic barstools.

While the rest of the café felt artistic and productive, this group did not. I had the feeling of reserved use and a working demeanor.

They alone in the café had no access to an electricity plug. Not meant for a person focused on electronics.

I came up, & my attention was instantly drawn to two baristas bustling, single-mindedly, around syringes, coffee packs, cleaning wipes, & two tiny glass cups, one holding a small, clear, goblet of water & the second with a few drips of golden rimmed, dark, liquid.

The two figures bustling & running around with the collection of contraptions & ingredients were a stylishly shabby guy & girl in slim, alluring clothing. Suddenly the girl walked away the guy peered into the two cups, using a small dropper to administer droplets of shining water to the dark liquid.

I asked if I could take a seat here &, getting a startled yes from the guy, dropped my bag on a stool. A bright red and white container of medical looking toilettes seemed to suddenly appear, and I asked, intrigued, “Is someone hurt?”

“What? No.” said the guy looking as befuddled as me before dropping the dropper & jotting some numbers & short words onto the notebook.

He alternately peered into the dark liquid and jotted something down for a short & yet indeterminate period of time.

“What are you doing?”

He looked up, just noticing me for the third time. And a conversation of scientific discovery ensued…

His concoction was coffee. A few small drips of nearly pure espresso. He was testing a small sample of what he had just made, for color & taste.

His notes were directions so that the palm sized packet of coffee that this small sample was from would be brewed perfectly.

What he was doing was an elegant chemistry of in the pursuit of perfection.

I asked him, “What is the name of your roll?”

Back straightening and his angular face turning to gaze off into the distance, he proclaimed, “Dictator of Quality.”

What milestone goals am I committed to achieving next month (max 6/month)?

 

High Level Goal Milestones Week Steps
Adventurous Rebel Physique BulletProof Diet

  • By the end of the month, be eating 90% via the bulletproof diet (or my best approximation of it that can fit my budget)

 

Heal

  • Find out what I need to do to get my shoulder back to 100%
BulletProof diet

  • Create a bulletproof shopping list & place to buy
  • Go buy
  • Live bulletproof

 

Heal

  • Ask doc my questions
Absolute Financial Abundance ChillHookahs

  • Write 7 articles/week
  • Take 2 hookah vids

 

Copywriting

  • Create a list of 50 ideal copywriting clients
  • Write for and pitch to 2 clients a week

 

RadNomad

  • Write 2 posts/week
  • Negotiate 2 dropshipping agreements
ChillHookahs

  • Write 7 articles/week
    • Week 1
    • Week 2
    • Week 3
    • Week 4
  • Take 2 hookah vids

 

Copywriting

  • Create list of 50 ideal copywriting clients
  • Write for & pitch to 2 clients/week
    • Week 1
    • Week 2
    • Week 3
    • Week 4

 

RadNomad

  • Write 2 posts/week
    • Week 1
    • Week 3
    • Week 4
  • Negotiate 2 dropshipping agreements
Creation of a Deep and Real Eddy Habits:

  • Start waking up at 7:30am
  • Adopt morning ritual of dance, meditation, healthy breakfast, shower, go
  • Eat & Drink every 2 hours
Habits

  • Go to bed at 1 and wake up at 7am
  • Adopt morn ritual
  • Adopt 2hour nutrition schedule
Worldwide Life Enhancing Tribe Mentor Contact

  • Contact 2 mentors a week (coupled with copywriting)
  • Learn EIP 1 lesson daily

 

Brothers

  • Re-made the World Changers In Training Mastermind
    • Sched weekly topics
    • Invite entrepreneurs

 

Girls

  • Define what I want in a girl
  • Ask my mentors & forum for advice on getting that
  • Follow advice
Mentor Contact

  • Learn EIP daily
    • Week 1
    • Week 2
    • Week 3
    • Week 4

 

Brothers

  • Choose crew of no more than 4 for the World Changers In Training Mastermind
  • Write sales letter and send to 4
  • Set up week schedule for first 2 weeks
    • Week 1: intro
    • Week 2: how we will run this thing

 

Girls

  • Choose what kind of relationships I want right now
  • Get advice on how to get these kinds of relationships
  • Follow advice
Integration of Self Actualization Habits Learning

  • Dance 4x/week
  • Learn french for 30 minutes daily
Learning

  • Set up morning dance classes
  • Dance 4x/week
  • Learn french daily
    • Week 1
    • Week 2
    • Week 3
    • Week 4
Exploration and Enjoyment of My Reality Nothing Specific, just enjoy yourself.

 

 

What MIT’s will I do to accomplish these milestones, and on which weeks? (max 7 per week)

 

Week 1

    1. Plan Month
    2. Create a bulletproof shopping list & place to buy. Go buy
    3. Write 7 CH articles
    4. Write5 Hookah vids & sched hookah meeting
    5. Create list of 50 ideal copywriting clients
    1. Write for & pitch to 2 copy clients
    1. Write 2 RadNomad Posts
    1. Talk about healing w/ my doc
    1. Start going to bed at 1 and waking up at 7
    1. Learn EIP daily
    2. Set up morn dance classes
    1. Dance 4x/week
    1. Learn French daily for 30 min.
Week 2

  1. Learn how to negotiate dropshipping agreements
  1. Start up 6 dropshipping negotiation agreements
  2. Choose crew of no more than 4 for the World Changers In Training Mastermind
  1. Write sales letter and send to 4
  1. Write 7 CH articles
  1. Write for & pitch to 2 copy clients
  1. Learn EIP daily
  2. Dance 4x/week
  1. Learn French daily for 30 min.

 

 

 

Week 3

  1. Choose what kind of relationships I want right now. Then get advice on how to get these kinds of relationships
  1. Write 7 CH articles
  1. Write for & pitch to 2 copy clients
  1. Write 2 RN articles
  1. Learn EIP daily
  1. Dance 4x/week
  1. Learn French daily for 30 min.
  1. Adopt morn ritual
Week 4

  1. Write 7 CH articles
  2. Write for & pitch to 2 copy clients
  1. Write 2 RN articles
  2. Learn EIP daily
  1. Dance 4x/week
  2. Learn French daily for 30 min.
  3. Catchup on whatever I missed

Oceans 11 - Life Lessons

A few weeks ago, I was talking with Stepan, and we ended up on the topic of Oceans 11.

Stepan made an interesting case of pointing out that Benedict is the most powerful and role modelable man in the movie. Sure Rusty and Danny and the crew are cool, but they have to steal money from Benedict.

Meanwhile, Benedict doesn’t really feel the blow to his bank account as much as to his ego, and seeks revenge to placate the latter.

This seemed to make sense, but something didn’t fit. Despite seeing his point and not being able to come up with a reason why it was wrong, I still found myself repulsed by the thought of becoming like Benedict and attracted to the thought of becoming like Rusty.

I was watching the movie again a few days ago and I finally understood what repulsed me from one and attracted me to the other.

Here’s the email I sent to Stepan explaining it.

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It finally hit me why we don’t want to be Benedict.

 

Rusty is playing a game. He’s seeing what he can do with all the aspects of life.

Danny’s practicing his craft. He’s smoothed out the edges and left the streamlined core.

 

But Benedict. He seems to have made a grasp and failed. To have lost himself in the striving and forgotten what he began striving for. He has money and power, but those are just tools to enhance enjoyment and accomplishment in life. He does not enjoy, and has accomplished nothing for any but himself. He preys on the weak- minded, exploiting and encouraging their flaws so they stay weak, instead of building something to make the world more strong.

 

His leadership seems stolen, not deserved. His enjoyment is the dust of a barren landscape, not the water of a thriving oasis.

 

In appearance he has won, but in substance failed.

 

Rusty shares his creed with Francisco d’Anconia & Ragnar Danneskjold, stealing from those who have found power through weakness. And using that power to build beautiful life, in his romances, creations [hotels], and self-improvement.

 

Danny does not build anew, but instead Cultivates that which has been built right. He is the guide and helping soul of the world, and he ensures that which Rusty embodies and has created will stay alive and not be used for corrupt purposes.

 

They chose their craft because they see what is broken in the world, that most are too weak to fight or even face. They know they must destroy it’s rot before they can build anew atop it. So, they destroy the dead parts which are feeding off life and spreading decay, and plant and cultivate the seeds for new parts, which need life and encourage it.

“and we learned to let that which does not matter, truly slide.”

– The Narrator

Stoicism, the art of choice and decisiveness. Of being truly realistic.

It is aiming for a target, without caring if you reach it. What matters is that your shooting is getting better.

It’s always having enough, and always wanting more.

It’s removing fear from the equation, and choosing desire and best odds to determine your course.

It is knowing the nature of fate, and knowing how best to play it.

Every choice in life involves the chance of fate. And you cannot control fate.

“No man can call the wind. So knowing, most men simply relax in the sun and wait for it to come. But the man who’s sails are open, who’s eye’s are alert, who’s boat is maintained, and who’s  search is unyielding; When the wind arrives, he will catch it. His boat shall take him to a destination of his choosing, while the other men will simply have to see where they end up.”

So, knowing fate to be beyond our control, we look not for certainties, but for odds. We choose what we want to win, and then we take the best odds to getting there.

And along course, fate puts struggle in our way. She guides us up to face fears, and so to either cure them and move on, or cower and die.

And she stumbles us into wonder, into friends who help us out when we fall hard upon a bad bet. Who whisper and shout to us: “Push On!” as our travels and chosen destinies weave us together and apart.

And, when the winds of fate change, and a gust rushes over the waves of life, the man who is ready shall catch on and fight to keep his hold along a speedy and adventurous ride.

Should he fall, as he often will, he will often find that his chosen destination is dramatically closer in sight, and his boat minimally damaged. A short period of maintenance to recover the boat, and once more the man unfurls his sails and watches for the signs that fate is once more presenting him a challenge.

And should his boat be dashed up against the rocks, and suffer significant injury, he will rest on the rocks and heal his own wounds speedily. Then, with a grinning smile of Hakuna Matata and new odds to play on his mind, he will rebuild his boat until it is in minimally viable working order, and unfurl his sales once more.

And should he ride that wind until it dies away, he will use it to better catch the next gust.

This man does not acknowledge fear. He instead chooses to choose his actions based on the best odds he can find for reaching a chosen destination.

He understands that failure to reach a goal is not a failure at all. It is a learning success and a movement closer to the destination. The only true failure he knows, is to quit his dreams of arriving at a new and wonderful destination, and instead choose to save now-useless energy and waste once-invaluable time seeking the odds that are most likely not to loose, instead of most likely to result in a net win.

Many will fall into this lull, forgoing their battle armament for fishing gear, and their elite crew for placid friends. The man sees them as he passes by, inviting him to have a pause and enjoy himself. Sometimes, when he is resting, he will join them. He will laugh and love and strive for nothing at all. But he will soon tip his hat to them and leap back upon his ship, with a new map that had been sketched while relaxing, and a recovered crew ready to take on hurricanes.

And into the horizon he goes, chasing new horizons, facing new storms, finding new companions along the way, and re-inventing his ship whenever he sees an interesting opportunity.

No matter what happens, he will have Hakuna Matata. No matter what happens, he will continue sailing towards new chosen destinations, leaving the achieved and explored behind him in memory and bringing along a new improvement for his ship from every past destination reached.