The Dangers of Focus

This is a sub-post to The Focus Experiment.

If I turn pro, if I focus on working hard and making money for the next six months, shelving the importance of love and travel and adventure…

Worst Case

  • I could fall into a depression because I have been ignoring the exciting things in life in favor of making money
    • I could ensure that I do approach a few women a week, just to say “Hi”
    • I could follow a healthy morning routine that prepares me for a good day & keeps me fit & healthy.
    • I could go couchsurfing in Montreal, so that I am always in a new surrounding, with new people, and having new experiences
    • I could reserve the weekends as time off. Time to hang out with friends, go on dates, meet women, see things I’ve been wanting to see, try new experiences.
  • I could lose my childish abandon and enjoyment of life, and become old, boring, and cautious
    • I could make sure that, no matter what the result at the end of these 6 months, I go do something reckless and exciting and new and dangerous for a few months. Fly to a new country with someone I admire and no plans.
    • I could ensure that I spend a certain amount of the money that I make on rewarding myself with something that I simply desire.
    • I could recognize that this is the retarded idea of work life balance, and promise myself that, after July 1st 2012, I will never again do something I don’t wholly enjoy for the money. I will give myself two months to totally eliminate, automate, and liberate all of the things I don’t enjoy in my life at the end of the experiment, and vow never again to place money over enjoyment.
  • I could gain a lot of weight, become unhealthy, afraid of women, anxious in social situations, and unable to focus on the moment and not on working.
    • I could ensure that I do approach a few women a week, just to say “Hi”
    • I could follow a healthy morning routine that prepares me for a good day & keep me fit & healthy.
    • I could go couchsurfing in Montreal, so that I am always in a new surrounding, with new people, and having new experiences
    • I could reserve the weekends as time off. Time to hang out with friends, go on dates, meet women, see thing I’ve been wanting to see, try new experiences.
  • I could waste six months of my life doing something I don’t particularly love in pursuit of something I desperately want but do not get, and so find myself having failed at my desperate attempt to figure money out. Now I am depressed, confused as to what I want and how I get it, bitter at those who have succeeded, and on a path to become a normal, boring, walking dead person.
    • I can view this as an experiment I think is likely to work, based on my belief that focus will result in a more direct route to a goal, and that locking in and really working on something is the only way to make something great happen quickly.
    • If I fail, but give it all I’ve got, I can simply view it as an experiment that has been completed and taught me something about life: that focus alone does not bring success.
  • My dreams of travel & women & adventure & exploration & gleeful stupidity could fade and be replaced the the practicalities of staying in one place & being with a stable woman & living a great story & risking all because I know the value of everything is gone the moment it becomes a deterrent and living by enjoyment and not fear.
    • I can promise myself that, at the end of these six months, I will go on a gleefully stupid adventure into new things and new places, and meet new people and love new women. No matter what, at the end of these 6 months of focus, I will disengage and remember the purpose of being alive: to enjoy it.
    • I can remember that I am doing this because I think it will bring me the most joy on a 5-year scale, not on a 1 week scale. And that, if I am successful in my goal & never have to worry about basic money ever again, it will be worth it.

Best Case Scenario

  • I could succeed beyond my wildest dreams, be making $10K+ per month, and never have to worry about how to make money again.
  • I could be connected with a bunch of cool people and mentors through having worked with them, and work with them to build successful passion businesses.
  • I could be proud of myself for succeeding as an entrepreneur.
  • I could make use of my new pride & my knowledge of human psychology & making friends to start travelling with awesome people, meeting and making love to beautiful women, and exploring my subconscious and the boundaries of my mind and understanding of the world and what I can do in it and to it.

What Can I Do To Fend Off & Repair The Worst Case?

  • I can focus on creating a morning ritual of yoga & exercise & planning & relaxation, that keeps me healthy & starts my days off well. (planned)
  • I can approach a minimum amount of attractive women every week, with just the intention of saying “Hi” and keeping myself from becoming fearful & reclusive around women. (planned)
  • I can go couchsurfing around Montreal while I work, so that my base is a social place, my possessions are minimal, and my desire for travel is satisfied if not satiated. (planned)
  • I could ensure that, no matter what, I take my weekends of to simply relax & go on dates & see new things & be with people I like. (planned)
  • I can create a plan of gleefully stupid and risky adventure for at least 2 months after my 6 month focus experiment. (planned)
  • I can create a list of rewards I want, and ensure that I spend a portion of the money I make every week on cool things & experiences. (planned)
  • I can make a promise to myself that, after this experiment & at the end of June 1st, I will never again do something huge that I don’t thoroughly enjoy. No matter what. Enjoyment comes first, this is just an experiment to see if I can increase long term enjoyment at the sacrifice of short term enjoyment. (planned)
  • I can see this as an experiment I am doing, not as who I am. As long as I give it all I’ve got, and take my best shot, the results will be what they be. I can view this as an experiment I think is likely to work, based on my belief that focus will result in a more direct route to a goal, and that locking in and really working on something is the only way to make something great happen quickly. Should I fail, I will know that my hypothesis has been proven wrong, and that I have to combine focus with something else to reach success. (planned)
  • I can remember that I am doing this because I think it will bring me the most joy on a 5-year scale, not on a 1 week scale. And that, if I am successful in my goal & never have to worry about basic money ever again, it will be worth it. (planned)

Actions

Every day, I will ask myself:

Have I said “Hi” to a sexually interesting girl today, with the intention of simply talking with her and keeping myself from becoming fearful & reclusive around women? How many women have I said “Hi” to this week?

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I will spend 15% of my profits every month on wish list things & fun experiences.

After June 1st, I will have two months to eliminate, automate, and liberate myself from all the work I don’t enjoy in my life. While at the same time planning an adventure.

The ideal adventure will be going to a new country with Colin Wright for four months, and just adventuring around and finding love and having fun.

The minimum adventure will be putting everything I own into my backpack, and backpacking across Canada towards BC for the summer.

I promise, here and now, that I will never again do anything that I don’t enjoy, and will find a way to remove things I don’t enjoy from my life as soon as I realize that I’m not enjoying them, no matter what.

After this experiment, after July 1st, enjoyment will be priority #1 no matter what.

I can make an actual, trackable experiment on my blog, to be updated monthly, for tracking The Focus Experiment. A reason, a hypothesis, the goals, the rules, the monthly tracking, and the final statement.

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