- I learned that, past a certain point, it is beneficial to be physically aggressive. When negotaition is over and you are in a fight (or if the alternative to a fight is a failure of your philosophical code), then it is time to fight.
- Desiring an outcome to the oblivion of you ability to notice the moment and all that it contains, and to use and enjoy it, not only destroys the enjoyment of the moment but also the attainment of the goal. Desperation is a destructive force, internally and externally.
- patience can be a virtue when combined with action, determination, inspiration, and enjoyment of the process. In fact, in it’s absence, the result can be desperation.
- How you percieve and think determines a considerable amount of what reality is and becomes.
- Actions taken to avoid discomfort are never the best actions to take. Neither are the ones taken to avoid (most) fears. Neither are the ones taken in desperate pursuit of an outcome.
- Worry is not a useful emotion ever.
- Whenever you feel a negative emotion, take a minute to analyze it and see if you can understand it. If it doesn’t ease off, just feel the emotion without pushing it away.
- We may be in a simulation. Or a dream. Eitherway, it’s enjoyable to live off the assumption that I control this reality
- I have been hiding a part of myself from others. The part of me that is scared and unsure and lonely and angry and other emotions that I percieve as negative.
- On that note, I have forgotten (or, rather, did not notice that I did not apply) myphilosophy that the only negative emotion is boredom. These emotions are positive because they are enjoyable and alive
- Therefore, I wish to share all of my emotions, without prejudice, with a all those who I feel will understand and be able to feel with me.
- I fall in love, or perhaps in interest, very very quickly.
- When I meet a irl who is amaizng an sexy and philosophically powerful, my desire and interest easily overtake my fear.
- Work can (and should) be a ton of fun. Planning my week, learning to surf, writing…I love these things.
- I have grown a LOT since last I was in Bali (3 months ago). First, I have learned how I like to work. I like to café jump, discovering new cafes and visiting old favourites. Second, I have so much more freedom. I am seriously not built to take orders.
- I’m not gay or bisexual. I tried it, and I can do it, but it’s not a big deal for me.
- Stress isn’t necessary to hold. Flow with what is, added to focus, can achieve better results with less negative.
- Stopping and taking a look at your emotions, and re-forming them, is always worth it when you’re feeling stressed out
- Stress and anger will propagate itself. It’ll get worse because it’ll bounce off of others.
- I feel good when I know I can trust myself. I don’t feel good when I break that trust.
- I re-learned how to stand up on a surf board, and I learned how to pump a wave.
- If something is building itself up into a monster in your head, realize it’s not nearly as big as it looks, then tackle it with 2 pomodaros to get it rolling and in perspective.
Somewhere in the midst of a few hours lost in conversation mulling over my half-inch stack of copywriting Verbatim work, each other’s Lifspekis, and plans for yoga in Ubud, we made a deal: For one month we will each perform a daily ritual of the other’s choosing.
Laura Viviana, my partner in this experiment, went first.
Every morning I must say a prayer. I wasn’t expecting this at all. Nihilist hedonism, with selfishness as a high virtue, doesn’t tend to click well with prayer. But hey, it’s sure to make a good experiment, eh?
The first word is meant to be a word representing god, or the universe, or love. Whatever that word is to you…or in this case, me.
I mulled this over for like half an hour. Universe is too…used. Ideal self…doesn’t mesh well. Creation doesn’t encompass the feeling. Existance…same problem.
Swinging on the hammock, Sally’s ice coffee in my hand and what I’m sure was an look of extreme consternation on my face, Sally (the owner of the Dragon Pyramid Homestay…best hippie-perfect place I’ve yet lived in Bali) piped in:
“Just use Life.”
“Yeah Life. Use Life.”
“Life. Hmm. Let me try it out.”
A Life based prayer, said for the first time amongst the Yes!’s and Hmm’s of Sally in the background, and I’d found my word. It flows perfectly.
Life, make me an instrument of thy peace.
That where there is hatred, I may bring Love.
That where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness.
That where there is discord, I may bring harmony.
That where there is doubt, I may bring faith.
That where there is error, I may bring truth.
That where there is despair, I may bring hope.
That where there are shadows, I may bring light.
That where there is sadness, I may bring joy.
Life, grant that I may seek rater to comfort, than to be comforted.
To understand, than to be understood.
To love, than to be loved.
For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.
It is by forgiving that one is forgiven.
It is by dying that one awakens to eternal Life.
So that’s it. Every morning, after yoga, I will speak this prayer. Listening to every word.
As odd as it sounds…I’ve already seen it effect my though patterns twice tonight. 30 more nights to go.
As for Laura’s experiment…well, I’ll let her tell that half of this story.
It didn’t much work, mostly because I didn’t stick with it. I didn’t stick with it because I didn’t connect with this prayer.
One part did click though, and still has me thinking about it. “Seek to understand, not to be understood.”.
I love this. And it’s something I don’t usually do. I like it, as it allows me to be secure in my own self-understanding, and at the same time focus my attention outwardly to understand those around me. Beautiful.
What follows is the one pager of the Meta-Learning chapter of Tim Ferriss Four Hour Chef (the first part of CaFE is one-paging whatever you’re learning).
You can get the full chapter and method notes from the Four Hour Chef’s meta-learning section here.
“It is possible to become worldclass in just about anything in six months or less. Armed with the right framework, you can seemingly perform miracles” – Tim Ferriss
The Two Guiding Principles
- Failure Points. Avoid things likely to trip you up.
- The Margin Of Safety. Pick a plan that ensures great results
DiSSS – Planning Your Attack
Deconstruction – The Minimum Learnable Units
“Students are subordinate to materials…Material beats method.” – Tim Ferriss
“When you have the best and tastiest ingredients, you can cook very simply and the food will be extraordinary because it tastes like what it is.” – Alice Waters, founder of Chef Panissee
Break the skill down into bite-sized pieces & identify all failure points and all fundamental principles.
Find and interview the pros (especially the unconventional pros) in the field, and find out what they do in common, what trips beginners up, how they would teach you, their fav learning resources, other unconventional pros, etc.
Selection – Choose The Best 20% To Focus On
“Do as little as possible, not as much as possible” – Henk Kraaijenhof
“Simple works. Complex fails.” – Tim Ferriss
Find the MED (Minimum Effective Dose) you need to learn this skill. What teaches overall principles well? What micro-skills are used throughout the skill?
MED = “The lowest volume, the lowest frequency, the fewest changes that get us to our desired result is what I label the minimal effective dose (MED)”
Sequencing – The Order In Which You’ll Learn
“How do you cut time without cutting corners?” – Tim Ferriss
What is the best order in which to learn? How can you avoid all the tripping points and learn all the fundamental principles and micro-skills? How can you make sure you’ll stick with it?
Stakes – Real Life Consequences
What rewards or punishments can you put in place that will ensure you will follow through? People counting on you? Money on the line?
CaFE – Making Things Easier
Compression – One Page It
“The word decision, closely related to incision, derives from the meaning ‘a cutting off’. Making effective decisions – and learning effectively – requires massive elimination and the removal of options.” – Tim Ferriss
Fit the entire skill on one page.
Frequency – When & How Often?
When & how often should you practice? What is the ideal schedule that you’ll stick to?
Encoding – Easy Memorization
Use Mnemonics and memory techniques to remember things.
You can get all 5 pages of my notes on this chapter, and on DiSSS and CaFE, here. (’tis free)