What I Learned This Week (Nov 2 - 8, 2015)

  • Rereading a book after a period of time makes it a very differnet book.
  • Always, always negotiate to get what is fair.
  • Jealousy & fear can lead to a lot of pain and mistrust. One way or another, I must internalize two things.
    1. I have chosen to put my full trust in Asha, and I have never caught her breaking it. While it is definitely possible that she does break my trust without me knowing, for reasons I don’t understand… thinking like that will drive me mad and surely end our relationship. I am left with but one reasonable option: trust her, and find comfort in that trust.
    2. I do not need Asha. I want her almost desperately. My life would be worse off without her. But I do not need her. She supports my work, is a source of my comfort and emotional warmth, allows me to koo, ensures my sex life is excellent, is adventurous and philosophical… she is excellent for me. But to allow these facts to make me cling too tightly to her will simply harm us and handicap me. I must be able to walk alone, even with her. Take deep pleasure and comfort in her presence, but not rely upon it too often.
  • Bring in interesting and inspiring ‘fuel’ for my mind, and I will be compelled to produce interesting and inspiring work. If creativity is shit, this is food.
  • I have to weigh my actions by my own scale. Other’s believing different than me can be listened to, but it must always come down to my own judgment on myself.
  • I must never again allow my lesser self to take control of my actions. When I do what my highest self does not want to do, I don’t fully enjoy it, and I often steal enjoyment from my future in the process. It is almost fully self-destructive. To do what I most desire, in my highest self, leads me to the highest enjoyment in the moment & an enjoyment that serves to build the foundation for an increased future enjoyment. As I go, my enjoyment will grow exponentially, built on the base of past actions and building the base of future actions.
  • Polyamory takes a LOT more work than monogamy. The increase in relationships, paired with humanity’s relative inexperience in the realm, leads to a TON of turmoil. If ever Asha and I decide to really look into it (possible, as it has a lot of benefits), we will have to be very solid together and able to survive & thrive in just about any environment.
  • Seeking to always improve in every way (posture, kegles, writing faster, creating ambiance, etc.) is an enjoyable habit to form.
  • No one really know anything, and all I can truly know is that I know nothing & that the few things I have strong hunches on are things that must be proven by my own experimentation & nothing else.
  • Asha is doing her best, as am I. When she tries to make me talk about everything, when she wants to cuddle when I want to work, when she does all of that stuff out of love for me and a desire for the most enjoyment in our relationship. If I feel that she is making me do things I don’t want to, I simply have to correct the course of things.
  • I learned more about how to analyze a website funnel. Really, once you gather the data, the advice it gives is quite blaring and self-apparent.
  • I learned about using the Why game to break down pretty much anything.
  • There is nothing to lose by writing a post. There is no reputation to be damaged, no audience to fail, nothing. There is only the chance of an excellent post, or the choice of no post.

 

What I Learned This Week (Nov 2 - 8, 2015)

  • It feels good, sometimes, to not have a bunch of thoughts and plans and to just feel emotion.
  • Rereading a book after a period of time makes it a very differnet book.
  • Planning a year takes little more than a day or two.
  • Always, always negotiate to get what is fair.
  • Jealousy & fear can lead to a lot of pain and mistrust. One way or another, I must internalize two things.
    1. I have chosen to put my full trust in Asha, and I have never caught her breaking it. While it is definitely possible that she does break my trust without me knowing, for reasons I don’t understand… thinking like that will drive me mad and surely end our relationship. I am left with but one reasonable option: trust her, and find comfort in that trust.
    2. I do not need Asha. I want her almost desperately. My life would be worse off without her. But I do not need her. She supports my work, is a source of my comfort and emotional warmth, allows me to koo, ensures my sex life is excellent, is adventerous and philosophical… she is excellent for me. But to allow these facts to make me cling too tightly to her will simply harm us and handicap me. I must be able to walk alone, even with her. Take deep pleasure and comfort in her presence, but not rely upon it too often.
  • Bring in interesting and inspiring ‘fuel’ for my mind, and I will be compelled to produce interesting and inspiring work. If creativity is shit, this is food.

Lessons Learned August 17

 

  1. I’m proud of being confident and congruent with myself at the wedding 
  2. I’m proud that George complimented me by saying I had not asked him a stupid question the whole night.
  3. I’m proud of Asha coming up with the idea of pitching Instaroid to cafes & bars
  4. I’m proud of thinking “what would a prolific creative & voracious learner do right now” and doing it.
  5. Fake it till you become it is a real thing. If you assume confident body language and actions, you will start and internal and external feedback loop that makes you confident. Same with if you assume the actions and lifestyle of a hugely creative and learning person.
  6. Asha isn’t too keen on travelling for long periods of time away from Singapore. This is going to cause strain in our relationship, but she is (and so I am) confident we will find a way to be happy without either of us overly sacrificing.
  7. I’m proud of where Asha and I are in our relationship. We’ve figured out the foundations, I believe. We’re amazing for each other, and I’m confident that next to nothing could break us apart.

What I Learned This Week (July 27 - Aug 02)

  • When Asha is feeling moody, instead of feeling moody as well, I should make her happy. Bring her into my sphere, not go into hers.
  • Sleep is vitally important to Asha. We must ensure she gets it.
  • Work is sometimes more important to me than sleep. Than almost anything except Asha (with whom it must find a balance). Especially when I am inspired.
  • Asha & I can figure anything out, can do anything, when we’re true to ourselves and work together.
  • Making money can be really easy. Especially when you’re skilled, confident, and good at making connections.
  • Both Asha and I have a tendency to focus on the bad and not the good

Mum's Basement Hustle

  1. Asha is more mature than I.
  2. The truth sets you free. When you know sometihng is wrong, and you truthfully figure out what it is, it will be better.
  3. While one should strive to understand everything, one should not structure and SOP everything. Some things, like passionate love making, are killed by structure.
  4. While staying in touch with reality, always assume the best and act accordingly. Remember that, no matter what you assume, as long as it’s based on objective evidence, you’re equally likely to be wrong as any other assumption. However, if you assume the best, you are most likely of all scenarios to actually achieve the best.
  5. While remembering the first, always know & plan for the worst.
  6. Sexually, don’t always grab. Flirting & chasing & teasing is fun!
  7. Always striving to impress each other, dress up for each other, surprise each other. This is a cornerstone to an amazing relationship.
  8. When someone earns your trust, and asks for it, give it to them.
  9. When stressfull things are happening, strive to stay even and calm. Deal with what is.
  10. If you are frusturated, do not take it out on others
  11. Focused meditation, where you do not explore your body & emotions nor calmly think through problems, is extremely difficult. Your mind will wander to the most unrelated places in literally the space of two breaths.
  12. Never accept free drinks from the bartender/owner unless you are prepared to pay for them. You probably will.
  13. Being a creative, fast moving, calm, optimal version of myself is just as hard/easy as being a lazy, tired, stressed, basic version of myself. The difference is that being optimal is hard in terms of having the willpower and energy and sangfroid to power through the hard parts with calm enjoyment. It is easy in terms of enjoying my life and loving what I do and who I am. Being basic is easy in terms of not having to try hard to do anything. It is hard in terms of disliking my life and who I am and being very restricted by my failure to create.
  14. People can forget the importance of not editing my copy. I have to immediately remind them when this happens. Nip it in the bud.
  15. When Asha and I are highly emotional in a fight, we need time to cool down.
  16. I LOVE google analytics. It’s so fucking powerful.
  17. Resepct other’s privacy, even if you don’t have much of your own.
  18. The Don’t Break The Chain method is extremely powerful in the face of rationalization.
  19. Willpower goes down as sleep debt goes up.
  20. I can do great work even when sleep deprived. In fact, I have a theory it helps with certain types of work. I should do a Sleep Deprivation Productivity Experiment.
  21. Elon Musk is probably the most impressive human I’ve ever heard of.

Fukkin Selfy Saturday

 

  • Don’t eat mindlessly. Especially when the meal is in any way special.
  • When you’re talking with someone, focus 100% on the conversation. If you fall off-side to research something, tell them and include them.
  • When I feel the desire to work, work! Don’t do anything else and wait for that desire to go away. Work.
  • Mom and Asha just had a major misunderstanding of eachother. Mom saw Asha’s introvertedness as rudeness, Asha saw mom’s affront as dislike.
  • Asha had gotten emotionally abusive after I hurt her. I hadn’t realized this and neither had she. When Joy pointed it out, we acknowledged it and she stopped. It feels so much better.
  • Follow the inspiration. Even if it leads off-project. Follow it.
  • Asha’s weed tolerance is such that truly potent bud is too strong for her. She enjoys, much more, a mellower weed.
  • Asha has her feet more firmly on the ground than I do. She should be in charge of final financial decisions.
  • Asha is an AMAZING copywriter. Fast, wonderfully worded, skillful. Wow.
  • Don’t get greedy when pricing. Too high = no sales.
  • Asha needs more sleep than I do. Probably because she works out. Which means that there will be times I go to sleep after her.
  • Cutting on a diet can be HARD. I’m craving food every damn night.
  • How to make begedel (tater tots)